Emily has a boyfriend still. We'll call him Tim. He lives near where Emily went to university, which is quite far from here.
I had a really long conversation with Emily about their relationship today, and we have done so before, too. Emily's positive Tim's not the guy for her any more. She has some unresolved things with him, meaning she's not going to end things just yet because it'd be more than a bit mean on him. Personally I think I'd rather know the full truth straight away. If I say that it's meaner not to tell him I just sound like I'm trying to split them up.
I really have tried to be impartial, suggesting that she tells him she's having doubts and watches how he tries to make it better. She said she doesn't want him to try to make it better though. She just wants to end things with him, in a non-mean way. That means she'll be with him for another month.
She did agree that she should probably have a bit of a chat with him though. So that'll probably be happening at some point fairly soon. Probably the weekend after this one, in fact.
Now, I have unresolved issues with Emily myself. I can't work out what she's interested in. I don't know if she just wants to be friends with me, or if she likes me, but is hiding it. It's tough to tell. The advice she gave me about Valerie makes me suspect she likes me. Also the fact that she's convinced she doesn't want to be with Tim makes me think she's looking for someone else. We've both mentioned to each other how our parents have said we should get together (which is kinda strange). I just don't want to make a fool of myself by asking her outright while I'm unsure!
Any thoughts? :\
antlady69
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Hmm, very difficult. Personally, I prefer the direct approach and talk about it. It's surprising how much better / more relieved one feels when things are clarified. Takes a load off your back for sure!
It's difficult to speak for others, though, because we're all so different. Maybe you can try to bring up the subject, tell her that you are unsure about her intentions. If you opt for that, do it on neutral / public grounds, with no alcohol or other drugs to distract you. Depending on what she replies, reassure her that you are happy in your non-sexual friendship with her (if that is the case).
Which brings up the question: what is it that YOU want from Emily? Only the status quo, or would you rather have a relationship with her? You need to be clear about your feelings before you bring it up to Emily.
Hope this helps a little bit...